Self Care for Writers: Writing Something Else
- Katherine Arkady
- Mar 18
- 9 min read
Introduction
You know when you stare at a word and say it over and over and over and it begins to lose its meaning?
That’s actually a phenomenon called semantic satiation. When you repeat a word enough times, it starts to sound strange or even meaningless because your brain temporarily stops processing it the same way. It's like your brain gets tired of interpreting the same sounds repeatedly and momentarily loses its usual association with the word’s meaning.
Now, consider the body of work you've been editing for a while. Do you think your brain has gotten tired of interpreting the same words? Has the chapter that once had a punch now lost association with the original meaning? Do you just see scribbles on the page?
Step away, friend. And write something else!
"You're kidding," you say. "Fix the problem with more of the problem?"
Well hey, if you're used to driving a car to work but instead ride your bike or walk, you're still traveling. If you're used to writing long form stories, but don't have the stamina for that, you can get your practice in other ways!
Flash Fiction or Poetry Challenges
Set Aside Time for Short, Creative Bursts
Take 15-30 minutes to write very short stories (called flash fiction) or poems from writing prompts. These are great for when you have limited time. And, if you're bogged down by larger projects, you can get a quick "win" with completing a story.
Writing Prompts to Jumpstart Creativity:
Only an Internet Search Away!
Or find a physical collection in books like:
642 Things to Write About: (Guided Journal, Creative Writing, Writing Prompt Journal) by San Francisco Writers' Grotto and Po Bronson
Writing Humor (Lit Starts): A Book of Writing Prompts (Part of the Lit Starts Series) by San Francisco Writers' Grotto
And Check out other writing prompt books on ThriftBooks!
Have a stellar writing prompt? leave it in the comments!
Embrace Experimentation
Experimenting with different forms (such as haikus, sonnets, or drabbles) allows you to break away from routine. The limitations of short forms allow you the chance to sharpen your focus. Since you have to convey meaning and emotion in a smaller space, you're all the more likely to creative breakthroughs. That's the good stuff!
Crafting Literary Collages
Well, you're not writing but you're writing. IYKYK
The exercise of "visual writing" gives you the space to explore your story's themes outside of your mind. Like contemporary artists distill "feeling" into abstract pieces, so too can you create imagery for your stories. For example:
If you’re working on a story about loss, you might search for imagery that conveys emptiness or melancholy, or pick words that resonate with that feeling.
If you're writing a story centered on personal growth, you might explore imagery that symbolizes transformation, such as a caterpillar emerging from its cocoon, or select words that convey a sense of renewal and resilience.
If your story revolves around betrayal, you could look for imagery that evokes a sense of broken trust, like a cracked mirror or a wilting flower, and choose words that highlight feelings of isolation or bitterness
Through this, writers gain fresh perspectives on their narratives.
Choose images, colors, and textures from from magazines, old books, newspapers, or even fabrics that reflect your story world or character personalities. Think of it as creating a visual diary entry that reflects your inner creative world. Stick it onto poster board, cardboard, a wall, a chair--anything. That's a part of the visual writing, too.
Another huge perk from this activity is that you're stepping away from the screen. Sure, you can collage on Pinterest and other apps nowadays, but to get the tactile experience of cutting, arranging, and gluing is meditative. Your mental energy is refreshed! You're grounding yourself and still technically writing. Go you!
Writing a Letter to a Friend
There is a very successful series of novels about letters that weren't supposed to be sent, but I would like to offer the case of why you should be writing and (mostly) sending way way more letters than you already do!
First of all, the obvious: Writing by hand on paper is different from typing. The slower pace allows for deeper thought, and the physical act of writing can feel more therapeutic, encouraging a gentle flow of ideas and introspection.
The less obvious is that, since it’s for personal expression rather than publication, you can reconnect with the joy of simply writing. Get back to the basics!
"But nobody sends mail anymore," you say.
You're telling me that you don't regularly take advantage of a mode of communication that is protected by more than 200 federal laws enforced by the Postal Inspection Service, one of the nation's oldest law enforcement agencies?? You don't offer the joy of a friend going to their mailbox and seeing that their friend has crafted a kind sentiment of thought just for them?? No?
"Okay but what would I even say?" you ask.
1. Start with Gratitude
A great way to open a letter is by expressing gratitude. Let your friend know you appreciate them, or thank them for something specific they've done recently. It’s an instant mood lifter for both the writer and the reader.
Example 1:
“I’ve been reflecting on how lucky I am to have a friend like you. Your kindness has always been a source of comfort for me, and I don’t say it enough, but I truly appreciate everything you do.”
Example 2:
“BITCH❤️ I wouldn't have been able to survive Jenna's party without your steady support. You're a real one for holding that chair.”
2. Share a Memory
Reminiscing about a shared experience can bring a smile to your friend’s face. It’s a way of saying, “I cherish the time we spent together.”
Example 1:
“I was cleaning out my closet the other day and found that hilarious photo of us from the beach trip—remember when we tried to build that sandcastle and it collapsed in two seconds? That was such a great day.”
Example 2:
“Remember that song that was playing when you and I went to Neck Tattoo Guy's house? It came on the classics radio yesterday. We can't be that old yet, right?”
3. Ask About Their Life
In a world where most conversations are rushed, asking thoughtful questions shows that you truly care.
Example 1:
“I was thinking about you the other day and wondering how your new apartment is coming along! Have you unpacked everything yet? I’d love to hear how your decorating is going.”
Example 2:
“I've heard from the moms at Doggy Daycare that Milo is growing into his paws. Are you enjoying being a new parent? I can’t wait to see more pictures.”
4. Offer Encouragement or Support
If you know your friend is going through a tough time, use your letter to offer comfort and encouragement. Sometimes, knowing that someone is rooting for you can make all the difference.
Example 1:
“I know you’ve been juggling a lot with work and school lately. I just wanted to remind you that you’re doing an amazing job—don’t forget to take breaks and treat yourself to some relaxation when you can.”
Example 2:
“He gave small d energy from the get-go, girlie. You handled that news about him and that one girl like a class act. I could not be more proud of the way you have lifted yourself up from that dumpster fire. You're going into your best era yet. I just know it.”
5. Include a Personal Touch
Letters are a space to share things that you might not usually say in a text. Be vulnerable, share a secret hope, or talk about something that’s been on your mind. Your honesty will deepen your connection.
Example 1:
“Lately, I’ve been working on some creative projects of my own. I’m not sure where they’re going yet, but it feels good to have something to focus on. Have you been exploring any new hobbies or ideas lately?.”
Example 2:
“...So that's the whole confession. I wanted you to know the whole story as you're the person I trust the most. I'll deny it up and down if anybody else were to know. Burn this letter 💚”
6. Send Well Wishes or Congratulations
Celebrate your friend's achievements and milestones, offering heartfelt congratulations or well wishes. It's a way of showing that you're genuinely happy for their success, whether it’s career-related or personal.
Example 1:
“Congratulations on your promotion! I can’t think of anyone more deserving of this success. I can’t wait to hear all about it the next time we catch up.”
Example 2:
“I just heard about your new book club—how exciting! I hope it’s everything you hoped for. Wishing you many fun and engaging discussions ahead!”
7. Be Playful or Lighthearted
Bring a fun, casual tone to your letter. By incorporating humor or light-heartedness, you create an easygoing atmosphere that makes your letter feel more personal and less formal. Being playful allows your friend to feel like they’re having a conversation with you, rather than receiving a heavy, formal message.
Example 1:
“So, I finally gave in and tried that weird coffee place you told me about. Let’s just say I’m now addicted to their caramel latte... thanks for the suggestion? (Kidding, I’m really enjoying it!)”
Example 2:
“I am LOVING the Christmas lights the town just put up. Is it the day after Halloween? Sure, but there is cheer to be had! Looking for Hallmark Christmas movie reccs if you have any. Who am I kidding? Of course you do.”
8. Ask for Their Thoughts or Advice
This approach is about valuing your friend's opinion and including them in your decision-making process. Asking for advice makes your friend feel trusted and shows you respect their judgment. It’s a great way to deepen your relationship by inviting a thoughtful conversation about a decision you're facing, whether it's about travel or career changes. This also opens up an opportunity for your friend to share their personal experiences, offering insight that could benefit you while strengthening your connection.
Example 1:
“You’re always so wise about these things—I’m having a hard time deciding whether to take the plunge on this new job opportunity. What do you think? I’d love to hear your perspective."
Example 2:
“So I'm trying to impress Pepperoni Socks Guy and that probably means having a little get-together so I can show off my cool friends. You're so creative and snappy with your parties. I need your crafty advice on how to it special."
These are just a few of the things you could include in your letter. Above all, a letter doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to be you.
Answer Questions in the Back of the Book
Holy smokes do I love a good "Reader's Guide" or set of "Book Club/Reading Group Discussion Questions."
These are informed and thought-provoking questions specifically chosen to enhance the experience of the novel you've read. I pick out books specifically for their guides! It gives me a peek into what really mattered to the author to get across in the story. And I stay more engaged in the story when I'm looking for parts to reference in my answers.
Speaking of, check out my answers to these "Book Club Questions from Reader's Guides" in other blog posts.
Looking for books with these questions?
"Book Club Picks" or "Staff Recommendations" sections at bookstores and libraries, which often feature books with detailed reading guides.
Online resources like Goodreads, Reading Group Guides, and Book Clubz are also great platforms for discovering books chosen for their discussion potential, as they often include user-contributed questions.
Additionally, look for “Book Club Editions” of books, which are often released with extra features like discussion guides and author insights.
Award-winning books, such as those recognized by the Booker Prize or National Book Award, often have in-depth themes and are great for group discussions, and many of these books offer discussion guides on publisher websites.
Finally, publisher websites like Penguin Random House and HarperCollins frequently provide downloadable reading guides or discussion sections for their books, especially those marketed as part of a book club.
Creating a List of Grievances and Letting Go
I have burned a lot of energy away in my time and you BET I wrote out all of the negativity. Fewer things are more satisfying than a good fire. Add ritual to it and I'm THERE.
I don't have to tell you what grievances to write about. You had your own personal anthology hanging on your shoulders before you even started to read this post.
Go ahead, lift the weight. Spill the tea. Hex and banish. Write everything or scribble your anger into the paper. Acknowledge your challenges. Acknowledge your outrage. Acknowledge the disservices and unkindnesses that have been thrust upon your path. Get it allllllllll out.
After compiling this list, perform a symbolic act of release. You might (safely) burn the list, you may tear it up or shred it. I've flushed the ashes a time or two. This ritual can be a literal and figurative act of letting go, symbolizing a fresh start in your writing journey.
Just keep in mind: as above so below. Once you’ve let go of grievances, consider creating a list of positive affirmations or goals. Remind yourself of your progress and reframe your mindset toward what you’re excited to work on next.
Conclusion
Writing something else—like a letter to a friend, collaging a visual tale, answers to discussion questions, grievances, and the like—can reignite your passion for storytelling. You started writing for a reason, and it's important to remind yourself of that. Taking breaks to write something different helps you refresh, recharge, and return to your main work with a renewed perspective.
Semantic satiation, semantic satiation, semantic satiation, semantic satiation,
Katherine Arkady
I needed this, thank you. Most favorable blog piece you’ve written so far.